I admire you for writing about your experience, and writing so beautifully. Try not to feel like a walking, talking reason for other people to be afraid: I realize that it’s easy for a bunch of birthworkers to say we all know loss is a part of the reality of reproduction, but … even when I was a miscarriage-terrified first-time pregnant person, your story wouldn’t have done anything to my fear. It was my own fear, coming from inside myself and my family history. On the other hand, you know that a lot of families dealing with loss feel silenced and alone–so I’d encourage you to share what you feel like sharing.

With love from all of your readers,
Molly

I am so sorry for your loss. Reading your blog reminded me of the miscarriages interspersed within the births of my seven children.

I am almost sixty now, healthy and strong, but I recall that I felt vulnerable after that first loss. I was also amazed at the love that people offerred
as they shared about their miscarriages, often unacknowledged. Because of the private nature of the birth and death, it is a lonely event.

Let the pain hurt and be gentle with yourself.
Love those you love.
God bless you, Molly.

Mary Chiles (anna’s mom)

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